Most of us almost by default seem to be focused on accomplishing greater things and keep on raising the bar. For others they do not see the need to push the envelope and everything in-between gives us each a spot on this scale to fit into.

For most the principles of practice for success and business, like honesty, integrity, hard work, value of money and the education it enables, takes them out on the journey of life, work, career and future. However, success-oriented living for the sake of it quickly feels void and un-fulfilling. Emphasis by society on values of money, possessions, power, prestige, pleasure can be highly disappointing and its pursuit seemingly futile. Power, money, corrupt values, focus on materialistic rewards increasingly robs us of the pure joy and happiness that success can and does bring.

Have you always wondered what it takes for you to be successful in life? How would you define success and happiness in life? If you want to be successful in life and be happy at the same time, just follow these 10 simple stepping stones to success!

1) Always be self aware and present in the moment. Focus on what really matters and makes a difference and do not stress unnecessarily about might be or could be. Know your very own desired outcomes, what you want and wish to accomplish. Be as detailed, specific, positive and focused as you know you can be in order to make it real and attainable, actionable and feasible to execute.

2) Be deliberate, intentional and committed to achieving your goals. Put a time-frame to it and line up what needs to happen and be done to get you there. Tap into resources and support that can help you do what has to be done.

3) BE positive and believe in yourself at all times, even when self-doubt or pity takes hold. Learn to get in touch with your spiritual side by learning meditation.

4) Believe in yourself and that you will be able to do what it takes, when it matters, persist and persevere.

5) Be aware of changing who you are, what you believe in for the sake of or for others or comparing yourself with others.

6) Break the larger tasks into smaller pieces to make it more manageable.

7) Care for your mind, body, emotions and spirit. Learn meditation for higher realizations.

8) Develop the will to risk and take some chances. Seek out opportunity, challenges and promise in all.

9) Do not be afraid or fear error, oversights, risks or mistakes. Do your homework!

10) Ensure that you have a clear picture. Set goals that are SMART, achievable, realistic and within your reach and capabilities. Take into close considerations your personal passion, needs and abilities. Ask and answer for yourself how it will benefit self, others and society, community, life etc.

Focus on what you can do, not what you cannot do or do not have. That is the key to success. Give yourself some credit where it is due, also for others, not taking credit that does not belong to you. Honestly and thankfully, yet humbly acknowledge your accomplishments and successes.

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“Once Decision can change your life forever.” Anthony Robbins.

One decision that’s all. It does not have to be huge and overwhelming not thousands at once - just one!What is that decision?

I WILL have the life I want!

Having made the decision you then take the next step, and the next step and the next!

Now this first decision does not require IQ, nor SQ but EQ.
Wondering what I am talking about?
Well IQ you know - it’s your intelligence quotient SQ social quotient.
And EQ is emotional quotient

Until the last few years education has been much focussed on the IQ part of the IQ SQ EQ trilogy. Learning strategies used in schools and universities etc were geared to the intellectual - little or no allowance was given to the emotional and social skills.

You may remember how you sucked at maths but were brilliant at drama!
Well I bet it was the high SQ EQ rating you have that gave you that edge at drama where as the class Einstein was hopeless at it! In the school yard the class dunce was the genius at trading marbles - that was his high SQ kicking in. He had amazing negotiating skills and every one liked him!

Today education systems are finally realising that we need to develop skills in all these areas if we are to achieve progress in the adult world. I am proud to say that here in Western Australia many teachers are now making big efforts to allow for this. Students are given learning experiences that tap into all three aspects and even the evaluation exercises are now more likely to give opportunity to use all three (IQ SQ EQ).

As a science teacher I can give you an example.
I might set a problem like a first aid scenario - boy falls off his bike and breaks his arm. Students are to present the first aid required to help this person.
Students would work in a team (SQ) and produce a presentation to me and the class demonstrating the techniques for treatment and also explaining the science behind their actions (IQ). There would be a team leader and I would assess how they have planned the presentation and worked together as a team. (SQ EQ)

Now you can see this is far more expansive in its possibilities than simple science test given after students read the textbook or first aid manual.

Now one thing I saw very quickly when I changed my approach to incorporate IQ SQ EQ - the girls started to excel past the boys! You see there are actually some differences between the boys and girls that traditional education techniques had not allowed for. Women have been renowned for their social and emotional awareness for years. Our education systems have, in the past, largely ignored this and therefore denied many the chance to show their skills and ability.

I was reading the Sunday paper and came across an article by Scott Pape,Blonde Ambition. (Scott argues that the gender genie is out of the investment bottle).
In the article he discusses the different investing strategies used by men and women. In general women do better than men - not because of the markets but the behaviour of the female investor. Scott goes on to discuss the aspects of the trading styles of men and women and concludes with

“. . .the truth is, becoming a successful investor isn’t tied to your intelligence or education but rather to your behaviour. Again women seem to have worked this out.”

Now what Scott is talking about is the other 2 of the triad SQ EQ. Women have strengths in these areas that males often lack. So when we start looking at wealth creation and investment strategies they often have an edge!

Now the good news is you can develop strengths in these other areas just as you developed your intelligence at school for all those years! The web is full of programs and seminars are run all over the world every weekend!

You have just one decision! Are you going to take the step to move forward and develop your abilities and educate yourself in a more balanced way?

Grab a book, enrol in a seminar, take one little step this week!

What about WQ? That’s Wealth Quotient.
Another article all together!

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[tags]IQ,EQ,SQ,WQ, learning to learn, education[/tags]

Is it hard for you to make a decision? When you can’t seem to handle what life throws at you, do you use food or other addictive ways as a way to cope? Do you feel taken for granted? Do you love, respect and nurture yourself?

When energy is allowed to flow in the Sacral Chakra you feel good about yourself, open, self assured, valuing yourself and others.

The Second Energy center - The Sacral Chakra relates to your sexual desire and energy, pleasure and nurturance, your emotional states and functions, and your ability to create. It is located about 2 inches below your belly button.

This chakra governs the whole pelvic region, and is responsible for the ebb and flow of your emotions and feelings. This center is a moon center with water as its dominant element. Just as the energy of the moon creates a magnetic pull on the sea, so too does it affect the waters that flow within you.

The genitals, womb, ovaries, testes, bladder and kidneys are all water related body parts which are affected by your emotions. Have you noticed the queasiness in your belly when you feel nervous or anxious, or how often you run to the toilet because your bladder fills up, or crying when you feel emotional?

E- motion is simply energy in motion or movements of energy that we describe as fear, pain, anger, and pleasure. The sacral chakra being the center of emotion expresses what you feel. It is also the center of self knowledge where you come to know, love and connect to the very core of who you are.

Do you find it easy to be alone with yourself? Do you need to be around people and be busy all the time so there is no time for you? Do you feel that you count?

Creativity originates from this center. You are creative in your own unique way and your creativity can be brought forth through the arts, your talents, passion and gifts. “I can” is the statement that characterises you when your sacral chakra is in balance.

Here are some ways to bring your sacral chakra into balance:
1. Release the energy of the emotions that you are experiencing as they surface up, by using some release techniques.
2. The colour orange helps to bring back increased feelings of well being motivation and inner joy. Use purple to restore balance to an overworked sacral chakra.
3. Meditation on the sacral chakra can help you connect deeply with the essence of who you really are.
4. Essential oils of Clary sage, jasmine, rose, Ylang- Ylang, sandalwood.
5. Gems: Carnelian, amber, orange calcite.

While repeating the statements, rotate your hand on the sacral chakra in a clockwise direction to anchor in these truths.

I am worthy of love
I am deserving of all of life’s blessings.
I am enough.
I am worthy of love and pleasure.
Who I am and what I do is good enough.
I am creating my life exactly as I want it
I trust the process of life
I am open to my creativity and sexuality

What action step/s will you take to bring your sacral chakra into balance?

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[tags]human energy system, sexuality, creative, sacral chakra, sexual desire, taken for granted, magnetic[/tags]

Have you ever become a victim of your own perfection paralysis when it comes to doing things yourself? I talked to a few friends who have been toying with the idea of getting together for months but haven’t done anything about it. The problem is they’re waiting to have everything complete, a place arranged, other things placed on hold, and have a list of places they would want to go, things to see, destinations to discover before actually selecting a date and getting it done. NONSENSE!

If I had waited to have all things perfectly settled before moving forward with my next step in life, I’d still have only a few friends in my life, and believe me, I wouldn’t be moving forward very quickly. Instead, I believe in scrapping the traditional route and going backwards. Ask any friends or family of mine and they’ll tell you I make a plan and move forward towards it.

For example, my family holds a ‘girls weekend’ every two years or so. All of the girls in our family (my Mom, sisters, sisters-in-law) all get together for a weekend of FUN! When a few of us were together this past Christmas, I asked for a date since I’ll be hosting it at our Cottage in Manitoba. We tossed a few dates around, anticipating who would have conflicts with each chosen date, and we booked two dates - one in May and one in June. Now all I need to do is email everyone with both dates, have them reply which works best for them (or if both work for them), and pick the date that the most can make it. Then I let them know which date it is, and everyone starts to make plans or change plans so they can attend!

Oh, don’t get me wrong, there may be some who can’t make it (in a family of 11 kids, it CAN be difficult to co-ordinate everyone’s schedule), but believe me, everyone gives it their absolute BEST effort! Even if they can only make it for one of the days! We have so much fun, they don’t want to miss out!

What are my friends’ and family’s reactions? Yes, you guessed it! “YIKES! I need to get my butt in gear and get things arranged! I’m going to the Girls’ Weekend in May!!!”

Magically, everything always gets done. The food is arranged, activities are planned, everything is completed and they have a list of things to bring to help with the event. Although I didn’t have a word for what happened, my good friend Fabienne Fredrickson calls this being PULLED forward by your goal, instead of being a victim of Perfection Paralysis.

When you stop procrastinating and instead start working to make it happen, it works every time. In the past, I have dragged my feet on picking a date for an event I wanted to give. ‘Should I have it in the summer, should I wait until fall?’ Since nothing was happening, I pulled out my calendar, picked a date, reserved the space and then made it happen, and you can too! There’s nothing like setting a deadline and getting in gear to make it happen.

YOUR RETIREMENT ASSIGNMENT:

Are you procrastinating putting together a get-together or event to stay in touch with friends or meet prospective friends? End the questioning NOW and just pick a date. Commit and everything will fall into place because you’ll have to get it done. Now, that’s what I call being pulled by your future. Use your coach or a buddy as an accountability partner by sending them an email with the date of your newly scheduled event. The most accountable thing you can do though is to reserve for the space ahead of time. That gets you moving!

If you like the idea of this unconventional way to move forward that gets you circulating and having fun, find a mentor who can help you create the retirement you want with proven, systematic processes that will help you fill your next phase of life quickly and consistently, guaranteed.

Tracey Fieber, Retirement Transition Expert is founder of http://www.NewFaceOfRetirement.com and Secrets to Retirement Success tm, a step-by-step program to create the retirement of your dreams, have fun with more friends, make more impact in your life, while having more time off to enjoy it all. To receive your F.R.E.E. Audio CD by mail and weekly how-to articles on attracting the life you want to live, visit http://www.NewFaceOfRetirement.com.

[tags]retirement, transition, goal, plan, life, retire, midlife, women, executive, entrepreneur[/tags]

Too many people have an up-and-down flow of friends, especially successful entrepreneurs and professionals. Some months they have almost too many things to do, places to go, and people to see, and are WAY too busy, and other months, they’re feeling like famine, wishing they had people to do things with. I’ve been there in the past, and there’s nothing worse than experiencing those two extremes on a regular basis. It’ll make you want to go back to a regular job for good, just for the consistent comraderie! (not me!).

I take a ‘no excuses’ approach to getting what you want out of retirement life. That means that the number one rule I have is that I do ’something’ to bring friends towards me every single day. Otherwise, you’ll find that no matter how good you are, and no matter how well liked you may be, your supply of friends will eventually dry up.

The key is to shoot for overfilling your retirement life. Most people just aim for having some people in it. That’s not enough. If you aim for something way bigger than what you’ve already received so far, you’re more likely to reach a more acceptable level, than if you were to aim low.

When I talk to my clients about this, the number one answer that comes back is, “But what if I get too many friends, people who want to do things with me all the time? What do I do then?” I’ve even heard, “What if I get TOO big? Then what?” That’s when I usually laugh, and say, “Good! That’s a great problem to have!”

There are 2 solutions for having too many people wanting to be with you at the same time:

0 Schedule some time in your calendar for them. It’s OK to do this. What you’ll actually notice is the opposite of what you might think would happen. Instead of them not wanting to be scheduled, saying, “I don’t want to wait,” most friends will chomp at the bit to find out how soon they will get to spend time with you, and will want to see if they can do anything to get together earlier. It’s actually very attractive.
o Leverage your time and efforts by creating group gatherings. You’ll end up being able to interact with more people at once and have more fun than you would with a single person. Leverage is one of the best things ever “invented” and having too many friends is one way to set yourself up for this.

What’s the easiest way to do this? Discipline. No one was born disciplined or organized, but by working as an executive and as an entrepreneur, it can definitely be a learned process. Take the ‘no excuses’ approach to maintaining relationships. Work on setting up systems, being organized (or getting help with it) and learning to master discipline in your life. You’ll never regret it!

That means doing some networking every single day, no matter how bogged down you are with life and existing friends. Get that letter out the door, rip out the newspaper article and send it to a friend or someone you want to meet, send that quick email to an acquaintance, write a thank you note. It doesn’t matter what you do, just do it! Make the time for it and share your personality with others.

The key is to do something that stimulates future friends and appointments because the reason that most retirees have relationship problems is that, nothing else. They spend time alone, or only seek out companionship when they’re desperate. They do the same thing, day after day. It didn’t work while you were in your work life, what makes you think it will work in retirement? Everything takes action, especially the networking.

Your Retirement Assignment:

Make a list of the things you can do daily for overfilling your lifeline. Then, schedule the time for it. Yes, I know you can be busy, but you need to take the steps now before you find you’re heading down the wrong path. It might be first thing in the morning, right before lunch, or maybe it’s right before you turn off the light and head off to bed each night. It doesn’t really matter when you do it, as long as you make a commitment to doing this for the rest of your life.

Make it simple for yourself. Buy books of stamps instead of one at a time. Or better yet, if you have access to a computer, sign up for SendoutCards.com. This is an inexpensive, easily managed way to stay in contact with people you know.

It’s really easy once you get started. You’ll find that you never experience that unhappiness and loneliness again. Guaranteed.

Now, if you need ideas for what to do daily to overfill that lifeline, find a mentor who can wak you through everything you need to know to create a retirement life that you’ll love to live. You’ll focus on learning how to figure out what makes you remarkable, how to create your life so you get friends to call you, and lots of other crucial techniques to help you fill your life quickly, including how to put together a simple retirement plan that gets you the life you’ve always dreamed and then put it on autopilot so you can have fun again. Why struggle with your retirement when you can have what you want easily?

Tracey Fieber, Retirement Transition Expert is founder of www.NewFaceOfRetirement.com and Secrets to Retirement Success tm, a step-by-step program to create the retirement of your dreams, have fun with friends, make more impact in your life, while having more time to enjoy it all. Attract the life you want to live: www.NewFaceOfRetirement.com.

[tags]retirement, transition, goal, plan, life, retire, midlife, women, executive, entrepreneur[/tags]

Fear of failure is common for obvious reasons. People want success and yet only those who are brave enough to confront this type of fear are the ones able to rise above their fears and achieve whatever goals they have set for themselves. For those who were overcome with this fear, then they are prevented from realizing their potential.

The most destructive element entailed with the fear of failure is one’s inability to take criticism or feedback well. Instead, they tend to magnify the mistakes they have created along the way until it overtakes their mind such that it is difficult to get rid of them. There are also instances wherein the fear of failure is so immense that people tend to limit themselves to the point of not trying for fear of failing.

Steps to Overcoming This Fear

Why must fear of failure be given attention on, you might ask. Unless you are able to let go of the fear of failure, then you are unable to achieve your desired result. Oftentimes, fear of failure produces negative thoughts that reduce your actual potential. You think you are incapable of achieving something when it fact you can.

Once you are brave enough to do something about this fear, then you are able to provide yourself more freedom to do what you need to do and succeed at it. Here are some basic methods you can try.

Do Something About the Fear

Fear of failure immobilizes you. You become so wrapped up with the fear that you will eventually fail that you rather not try. But when you don’t try, you neither fail nor succeed. Therefore, make that decisive action towards conquering your fear. If you should fail, then you will create awareness of the factors that will contribute towards your success. If you succeed, then you can reward yourself with that.

Find Alternatives

There are several factors that contribute as to why you fail or succeed at doing something. Whichever it is, you need to look at your behavior towards something and the result achieved. But the most important step you can take is never to associate your failure with yourself. You can always get back up and try other alternative methods to achieve your goals. You can try doing things differently as the methods you use could be the reason why you failed in your attempt.

Learning From Failure

This is the best that you can take out from the experience and also one of the more effective ways to get rid of this fear. Instead of putting all the blame on yourself as to why you failed in your endeavors, take it as a learning experience instead. This will enable you to prevent failing in the future yet again. Consider the following questions as they can provide the answers in your need to conquer the fear of failure:

Where did you commit mistakes?
How could you prevent the mistake from happening?
Where can I make improvements?

Failures must always be translated into a learning experience. That way, you have more opportunities to learn and do better. After all, if you have not experienced any type of failure, then you would not have the means towards changing for the better. In terms of conquering this type of fear, it is important that you learn how to confront and overcome them. Or else, you could end up repeating the same mistake or worse that your fear of failure could prevent you from following your goals.

The author is a freelance blogger and writer. She writes about entertainment, showbiz actors and actress, and TV shows such as America’s Got Talent S04e03 , and Michael Jackson’s Ghost .

[tags]fear of failure, failure, overcome failure, overcome fear[/tags]

Fear of public speaking is one of the most common fears that people has, which is making a speech before an audience. Although this task appears to be rather straightforward, there are several factors that could come into play, which makes this a legitimate type of fear instead of being an irrational one.

Even those people whose job requires them to speak before a group of people are not exempted from this fear, which is surprising knowing that they do it often. So you might as well picture those individuals who only get to perform public speaking on given occasions and the amount of fear that is entailed with the task. In fact, the fear is so massive that it can result to stress for some people. This requires some attention knowing that some people who experience fear of public speaking end up not delivering a quality speech since they are overtaken by that fear. Indeed, the feeling of fear can cloud one’s ability to focus on the task at hand. After all, an effective public speaking produces a satisfying experience for both the public speaker and its audience.

Steps to Overcome Fear of Public Speaking

Public speaking isn’t an activity to be feared about. If this does not do the trick for you, then you might want to consider applying the following perspectives and behavior towards this and hopefully be able to overcome this type of fear.

Public Speaking Isn’t Supposed to be Stressful

Fear of public speaking is quite common that some people think it is inherently stressful. Well, it is time you know it is not! Communicating with others is an activity with which humans do everyday, so why should public speaking be any different? Therefore, one way to overcome the fear of public speaking is to imagine this activity as any regular communication that you do everyday. The only difference with public speaking is that you are addressing more people than you normally would.

Acquiring this new perspective is not something that you can achieve overnight, though. However, just focus on what you need to share during your public speaking and less on the actual delivery process to lift off the burden.

Give Up The Idea of Delivering a Perfect Speech!

This is another major culprit as to why people fear the idea of speaking in public. Indeed, the idea of embarrassing yourself in front of many people is frightening. But the content of your speech is what is these people will remember, not how you flawlessly delivered the speech. Once you are able to get rid of this anxiety, then you will find that you become less frightened with the idea of making public speeches or talking in front of large groups.

Focus on the Purpose of the Speech!

One of the most common “hidden” causes of stress associated with public speaking is related to the cause above, which is trying to impress the audience with your delivery. Focus on what value the audience can get from your speech delivery instead of trying to make an impression on them. Although delivery will boost your success at a public speaking activity, the most important thing is to communicate effectively with them. If it offers any consolation, not all public speakers get 100% approval from their audience anyway.

Becoming a Good Public Speaker

Now that you have recognized the major cause of fear that most people experience when public speaking, here are factors that are important in not just overcoming this fear but also doing a good job at your speech.

1. Study your subject matter thoroughly so you can be confident when its time to deliver it.
2. Polish your speaking skills. This will enable you to relay the information clearly and authoritatively.
3. Prepare all of your presentation materials so you can deliver an organized speech.
4. Practice your delivery. Even the best public speakers do this.

The author is a freelance blogger and writer. She writes about entertainment, showbiz actors and actress, and international news such as Sahel Kamezi , and Saizen the 85 peso store .

[tags]public speaking, speaking in public, fear of speaking, overcome fear[/tags]

Summer is really a fun and enjoyable season. During this season, most people love hanging out with friends and family members while cooling off at the beach or strolling around the mall. Practically everyone finds the summer season a celebrated time of the year. In fact, most of us use this season as the perfect time to get away from the strenuous lives that we lead and to just enjoy a day out, basking in the sun.

In addition to the activities previously mentioned, other enjoyable ways to bask in the summer sun while having the time of our lives is to spend a few days, playing treasure-hunting pirates in the forest with the kids in the family and just drinking trekking the mountains with hiking buddies.

In spite of these, certain precautions should be remembered when basking out in the sun. Here is a simple checklist on the surefire ways to enjoy the summer season without getting all burned up from the harmful rays:

Use sunglasses. This one is pretty basic, but still, some people forget to bring their sunglasses with them whenever they go out on summer days. Aside from the discomfort for the eye that leaving the house without sunglasses on may cause, it would also harm the eyes with the UV rays. So to protect our eyes and to ease it in comfort, always wear sunglasses.

Put on some lotion. We agree. It is pretty hot and humid and putting on lotion just might compound the rise in the temperature. But without lotion, our skin would get all burned up without protection, which may lead to skin cancer. Tanning is in fashion every summer season but putting on some protection is never uncalled for. So before getting all geared up for your summer getaways, pack a bottle of cooling lotion with high SPF levels for maximum protection.

Drink up. Keep yourself hydrated by drinking enough fluid, water is especially the ideal fluid for this purpose. Drinking lots of water will not only keep you hydrated, it will also even out the temperature, thus you will not feel the humidity in as much extent as you would have if you don’t drink enough water.
The summer season is meant to be enjoyed, but not to the extent of providing infinite enjoyment without as much as a flyspeck to the idea of still practicing certain precautions to make your summer more hazard-free.

Charles Volcolatte is a health and weight loss researcher for www.skinnyasap.com. He writes and researches actively on Weight Loss Reviews and shares his knowledge at www.skinnyasap.com where he works as a staff writer.

[tags]summertime advice[/tags]

Ever feel so stressed-out that that you do not even want to get out of bed, or snap at practically everyone you encounter? Studies have shown that psychological counseling can significantly reduce the agitation, anxiety and depression caused by your life’s daily stressors. But, exactly, how does it work?

Research studies demonstrate that psychological counseling is therapeutic. In fact, to some, this confusing and stressful world make it a necessity in order not to feel worried all the time:

It is similar to other forms of person to person communication. However, it occurs with a licensed fully trained counselor or psychologist and centers on what needs to be done to eliminate your depression or anxiety. Proven benefits include: a reduction in your anger and agitation, elevation in your mood, a more open-minded outlook and an overall sense of peace and well-being.

Psychological counseling, that is, interpersonal dialogue focused on solving personal emotional problems has been benefiting people in one form or another for centuries. Those that benefit the most, however, are those who are considered psychologically-minded.

What does that mean? If you tend to be trusting, feel OK talking to others, are reflective, thoughtful and are willing to see things from different perspectives you are more likely to benefit from psychological counseling.

There are different methods of counseling. Whether your counseling is client-centered, cognitive, psychoanalytic or rational-emotive the benefits are always positive if your counselor is licensed, appropriately trained and uses the important skills of empathy, warmth, respect and concreteness in communicating with you.

Many expert therapists combine techniques from various counseling modalities, including those above to provide the client with the therapeutic work needed to see things clearer, relieve anxiety and regenerate self-esteem. Psychological counseling is drug-free and one of the best ways available to resolve negative feelings.

Through it, you reflect on your feelings, become aware of those feelings that were previously subconscious, sort them out and take action to significantly improve your mood and quality of life. In the stressful world in which we live, it is easy to become confused, depressed and emotionally uncomfortable in our own skin. In those cases, psychological counseling is not a mere option for us, but a necessity.

Marriage counseling is related to psychological counseling. People who realize their marriage is in trouble and have not been able to improve it themselves desperately need marriage counseling.

Most marital counselors tend to be neutral and nondirective. However, others adopt the approach that they should be forthright and call it the way they see it.

They see their role as that of directly coaching or teaching them to solve the problems that are destroying their marriage. In most cases when marriage counseling is unsuccessful, the reason is that the non-directive approach is used as the counselors primary method.

On the other hand, when the directive approach is used, counselors encourage couples to pick specific goals for their therapy sessions and the steps to solution are quicker and clearer. A good counselor helps husband and wife to get their goals established.

Then a plan is developed to achieve them. Before you begin counseling, talk to several counselors in order to learn about their training and orientation. Here are some points to understand before committing yourself to marital counseling with any particular therapist.

The therapist should be willing to provide a resume which describes his education and experience in couples therapy. Find out whether your prospective therapist as more experience in saving existing marriages or in helping people getting over divorce.

Find out if your prospective counselor believes that divorce can be an option under the right circumstances. The answer might affect your choice.

A particularly sticky problem exists if one partner wants to end marriage and the other does not. Each counselor handles that problem differently but a marriage counselor should not just help each of the partners solve their problems individually, but focus on relationship issues instead.

To an important degree, the outcome of your marriage counseling will depend on the type of therapy you are receiving; and remember that salvaging your relationship is a responsibility shared between you and your counselor. Select a counselor who has a high percentage of couples staying together after completion of their counseling.

Dr Shery is in Cary, IL, near Crystal Lake and McHenry. He’s an expert psychologist with 30 years experience; he provides day, evening and Saturday appts and accepts all local insurance. Call 1 847 275 8236 to make an appt orlearn more about counseling at: http://www.carypsychology.com

[tags]psychological, counseling, algonquin, Cary, stress, mood, depression, anxiety[/tags]

Are you using all of your energy just to help you survive? Do you worry about how you are going to pay the rent this month, or how you are going to afford to buy Johnny the coat that he has outgrown?

Have you wondered how the oak tree got to be so tall and look so beautiful? A mature oak tree can draw up to 50 gallons of water per day through its magnificent root system that goes deep into the earth providing it all the nourishment and the support that it needs which allows some of them to live up to 200 years. This would not be the case if the tree’s roots were damaged.

If your root chakra was damaged or wounded when you were a child, monetary issues which are the domain of the root chakra, will continue to plague you until these challenges are dealt with and resolved at the cellular level. There is no way that you can entrust yourself to walk in abundance when you are struggling to cope with the day to day necessities in life.

The First Energy center - The Root Chakra is located at the base of the spine and it is what grounds you to the earth. Energy flows from the earth into your feet, up through your legs into this chakra where it is processed into a more suitable energy for your body.

Your Root Chakra holds the energy that influences the dynamics of birth issues, survival patterns, generational patterns, money, food and health issues, grounding, and what keeps you from belonging.

The root chakra which overseers the adrenal glands is where we experience the paralysing emotion of fear, that holds us back and is the emotion that is behind the words I can’t, I’ll try later, I would if I had the time or money. This is blocked energy in the root chakra. These emotions carry a vibrational energy and can be released very easily. Allowing them to be released is the best way to bring your base chakra into balance.

When you are grounded you know that:
You have a leg to stand on
You can stand tall without standing on someone
You can pay your own way
You are willing to stand up for what you believe in even if you are standing alone
You can put your foot down.

Here are some ways to bring your root chakra into balance:
1 Release the energy of the emotions that you are experiencing as they surface up, by using simple but powerful release techniques.
2 Walk barefoot on the floor, grass or on the beach
3 Meditatiing on the root chakra can release stress
4 Wear the soft shades of red
5 Use grounding essential oils like vetiver, ginger, sandalwood, patchouli by adding them to your bath, or in a diffuser.
6 Gems: Red jasper, garnet, smoky quartz, obsidian, ruby, black star sapphire, red jade all help to ground you.

Place your fist on your first Chakra, which is your groin area. Rotating your fist in a clockwise direction will energize the following truths held in your First Chakra:
I am safe, grounded and confident.
It is my blueprint to be wealthy and free
I love my body and trust in its wisdom
My root chakra is deeply grounded

Which of the above step/s have you decided to follow through on?

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